So He Spun the Block… Again. But Why?

Let’s set the scene: You haven’t heard from him in weeks. You’re finally sleeping through the night again. You’re not stalking his IG stories anymore. Maybe you even have your edges laid and your peace intact. And then—boom. He pops up.

“Just thinking about you.”

“I miss us.”

“Can we talk?”

We’ve all been there. Whether it’s an ex, a situationship, or that man who ghosted you but somehow found his voice again, the double-back is real—and honestly, it’s exhausting. So what’s really behind the block spin?

According to YourTango, men often reach back out because the reality of you moving on doesn’t sit well with them. That silence? That glow-up? It starts to feel too permanent. And so they test the waters—not always because they’re ready, but because they can’t handle being replaced.

And here’s the thing: sometimes it’s not about you at all. Verywell Mind breaks down how rebound behavior (which doubling back can totally be) usually happens when someone hasn’t processed the breakup. They’re craving comfort, not connection. And they want what’s familiar, not necessarily what’s right.

Psychology Today also notes that men, in particular, can struggle with breakups long after they act like they’re fine. Their coping doesn’t always look like tears—it might look like late-night texts and emotional flashbacks when they feel lonely or out of control

But here’s where it gets tricky: not all block spinners come back because they want you. Some come back to see if they still can. Access is not affection. Nostalgia is not effort.

So how do you know if it’s real or recycled?

Start by checking the receipts. Has he grown? Is his communication different? Is he making consistent effort—or just checking in because he saw you post that soft life reel with someone new?

Experts say the best way to really know where you stand is to lean into the no contact rule. That means no texts, no late-night replies, no “hope you’re good” follow-ups. Because your clarity lives in the quiet.

If he’s serious, he’ll come with consistency, not confusion. But if it’s just ego or boredom… you’ll feel it in your gut. And girl, trust that.

Because sometimes, the glow-up isn’t about him seeing the light. It’s about you never dimming yours again.